Don’t Blow Your Budget.

Dream dress

When planning a wedding most people have a set budget and they divide that up into component parts – venue, flowers, food etc.  However, when it comes to the dress sometimes budgets can go out of the window.

If you know you only have ‘x’ amount to spend on your dress, whatever you do don’t look at or, worse still, try on dresses over budget as the only thing this will achieve is heartache.

A dress that costs £1,000 will never match a dress that costs £12,000 and no matter how many dresses you try on afterwards none of them will live up to the ‘dream’ dress.  Dresses within your budget will now seem cheap, they won’t have a big enough skirt, the material won’t be right, there won’t be enough bling etc.  Know your budget and stick to it.

If, however, you really feel you can’t live without ‘that’ dress can you live with cutting back on other elements of the wedding?  Are you prepared to maybe invite less people, go for the cheaper food option, have less decorations?  Think really hard before getting caught up in the excitement of the moment as it could have serious consequences on the rest of the day.

Too Many Cooks.

Entourage

It’s lovely to invite family and friends to help choose your dress but what if they have different ideas to you as to what you should look like on your wedding day?  Granny may want a demure covered look, Mum may want the princess gown and your friends want to see you in something tight and sexy so what do you do?  Stick to your guns, that’s what!

The number of brides who fall in love with a dress and can visualise walking down the aisle in it and then change their minds because one or more of their entourage don’t like it is amazing.

Also, if someone else is paying for the dress they probably feel they have the final say in what you wear but remember, it’s your day and it’s your choice.  Don’t feel pressured into buying something you don’t want.  It’s better to walk away without a dress than buy one you’re not in love with as it will probably only result in you buying another dress later on anyway.  If the dress makes you light up and maybe shed a few happy tears then everyone else will love it too.

To Lose (Weight) Or Not To Lose, That Is The Question!

Gym

For most people the health kick starts on January 1st but for some reason, for brides-to-be, it happens when the ring is put on their finger.  They seem to think the minute the man of their dreams wants to marry them he suddenly doesn’t like the way they look!

Maybe you haven’t felt happy with how you look for some time but because your partner loves you just the way you are, you haven’t had a reason to do anything about it, but now you have the incentive you need and exercise is a great stress reliever, which when planning a wedding could be a bonus!  There are a few downsides though……..what if your fiance doesn’t like the ‘new’ you?  What if he misses eating takeaways with you on a Saturday night?  What if he doesn’t want to embrace your new fitness regime?  With weight loss a new confidence can come and people notice you more – will your fiance be happy about that and proud to be with you or will it cause jealousies?   Will you look at your partner and think they don’t look as ‘fit’ as you thought they were and feel you could do better?

It’s worth thinking about the reasons you want to lose weight.  If you are doing it to look good in your photographs how are they going to make you feel if you put the weight back on?  Losing weight is great but do it for the right reasons and make sure your fiance is with you 100%, after all, he might not want you to lose those assets that he loves!

Are Wedding Traditions Still Important? Part 3

speech

 

  1. Should the Bride take her husband’s surname?
  2. Should the speeches be the preserve of one gender?
  3. Should the cake still be iced fruit cake?

 

  1. Now this is a tough one. Back in the day it was expected for the Bride to take her husband’s name but nowadays that’s not always the case.  If the bride has a career where she is known by her maiden name and changing it could cause confusion then for professional reasons she may choose to keep her maiden name but use her married name for personal things.  Also, with some families only having girls and no boy to carry on the family name some Brides like to keep their name but put their husband’s surname last to make it double-barrelled.
  2. Most speeches are the preserve of the Father-of-the-Bride, the Groom and the Best Man but nowadays it is becoming more popular for Brides themselves to want to say something and why not? Also, if a female member of her family has given her away then she too should have her say and if the Chief Bridesmaid wants to say something then bring it on I say!!
  3. I think this has now fallen by the wayside.  Wedding cakes are now becoming lighter and with so many choices you can have each tier a different flavour. Some don’t even get iced but stay ‘naked’ just covered in buttercream.  Nowadays, if you mention iced fruit cake, people are more likely to associate it with Christmas rather than a wedding.

Are Wedding Traditions Still Important? Part 2

father-of-the-bride

  1. Should there still be a Best Man and Bridesmaids?
  2. Should the Bride’s Father still walk her down the aisle?

 

  1. Nowadays it’s not unusual for there to be a Best Woman (I should know, I was one and even wore tails!) and why should there be only one Best Man? If a Groom has more than one brother or more than one close friend how can he choose only one of them?  Those not chosen usually act as Ushers but think of the fun of having more than one speech from people that have known you from different stages of your life!  The only issue may be who hands over the rings but if you pick your oldest brother or the friend you have known the longest then I don’t think anyone will have a problem.  As for Bridesmaids, well this can go the other way.  With people having so many ‘friends’ these days Brides can find it hard to choose and end up with six or more maids.  Not only is this costly if the Bride is buying the dresses but can also cause problems in the hair and make-up department.  I know one bride who wanted an ‘up-do’ but by the time the hairdresser got to her she ran out of time and just about managed to blow-dry her hair!
  2. I think most Brides would want this, however, with families being the way they are these days that isn’t always the obvious choice. The Bride’s Father may no longer be alive, he may be divorced from her Mother and has a great relationship with her Step-Father and doesn’t want to hurt him or she may not be close to her family at all.  I’ve been to weddings where the Mother-of-the-Bride has walked her down the aisle, her brother, her best friend or even no one at all, just herself like Meghan Markle.  There is no right or wrong here, it really is personal choice.

Are Wedding Traditions Still Important? Part 1

Proposal

  1. Does the Groom still have to go down on one knee to propose?
  2. Should the Groom still ask the bride’s Father for permission?
  3. Should the Bride’s family still pay the bill?

 

  1. This is one tradition that I think will stand the test of time. It makes the giver and the receiver both feel special.
  2. This is a tough one. Out of common courtesy it is usual to ask for permission but what if you can’t trust them to keep it a secret?  My husband knew my family would be too excited to keep it to themselves so never asked but my Dad was thrilled anyway (he was finally getting rid of me at the grand old age of 35!!).  Also, what if he said no?  Would you really stand by his wishes?  I know most grooms-to-be have still asked their girlfriends to marry them despite their Fathers refusal to give consent.
  3. I think this is one tradition that is falling by the wayside. With weddings getting more extravagant most couples feel that if they want the works it is only right that they foot the bill but will sometimes ask the parents to pay for one part e.g. the flowers or the meal.

Engagement Rings – What A Minefield!

Engagement Ring

When it comes to your boyfriend ‘popping the question’ would you be happy for him to surprise you with a ring he’s chosen or would you want to pick it yourself?   If you’ve got to the stage where he’s ready to propose, he must feel he knows you pretty well and what your tastes are so would you happily accept it or say ‘Darling that’s wonderful but not really me’ and make sure he’s kept the receipt so you can go back with him to the shop and get what you want?

Then how do you decide what to choose?  Do you prefer a solitaire, three stones, a certain cut or colour or would you prefer to have it designed so yours is unique?

If money is tight and he can’t afford the ring of your dreams would you upgrade as and when he could afford to or would the sentimentality mean you’d stick with the original one?

I used to work with a girl who ‘upgraded’ her engagement ring four times!  The marriage didn’t last – maybe she upgraded him!!!