Are the days when you decided what you wanted your wedding to be like slowly becoming weddings that will out-do the others you’ve been to already?
Is it, how do I make mine bigger, better, more memorable rather than is this what I really want?
Some of the best weddings we’ve been to have been the ones where the budget is very limited. It takes a lot of skill to organise a wedding with very little money compared to having an unlimited budget. Yes, people will remember the crystal fountain, the flamingos on the lawn, the 12ft cake but will they actually remember the day, celebrating your wedding and being with you?!
With so many choices for styles of weddings these days is it easier or harder for brides?
When you had the choice of either a church or registry office and either an hotel or village hall your style of dress, decorations, flowers etc, were pretty easy to decide on, the hardest part was probably choosing the colour scheme but now the choice is vast. Do you go ultra modern, shabby chic, roaring 20s, outdoor bohemian, glamour and glitzy? Do you wear vintage, ballgown, mermaid, long, short? Do the men wear tails, suits, casual? Do you have extravagant centre pieces or hand-picked flowers in jam jars? Sometimes too much choice can be bamboozling but I think it’s exciting as the only thing holding you back is your imagination.
When someone used to say they were getting married 9 times out of 10 you could guarantee it would be in a church followed by the reception at an hotel. Now-a-days when someone says they are getting married the chances of guessing where the ceremony and reception is going to be is like trying to guess how many blades of grass are in the lawn! As photographers we love this! We never know whether it’s going to be a barn, a football club, in a field or as one of wedding was, in a visitor centre overlooking a dam! We’ve been lucky enough to do the very formal to the very informal which means our style of photography has to be flexible and we really enjoy this as it keeps us on our toes!
Back in the day, photography was very formal and the shots limited. Each photograph was posed and it was all very serious but my, how times have changed. Today, anything goes. With couples choosing anything from fancy dress to animals being part of the wedding party, photography has had to become less stuffy and more informal. Couples are now preferring candid shots over posed shots and the photographs are more a story of the day unfolding.
John and I enjoy doing this style of photography as people either don’t realise they are being photographed or are more relaxed about it and this makes the pictures much more ‘real’, Also, with families being much more ‘blended’ these days the request for shots of the brides family/grooms family etc, are getting less and less. Every wedding is different though and that’s what makes it so much fun!
In my last blog I mentioned how our photographer had a problem with his camera and this made me think about how times have changed. In ‘our day’ it was good old film and your were limited to how many rolls the photographer had and heaven help you if it got exposed. I’m not too sure what went wrong on our day – the photographer never did tell us – but he lost a complete roll of film and we lost a whole ‘time frame’ of the day.
The difference now, of course, is you can take anything from 500-800 photographs digitally and if you aren’t happy you can delete them immediately or edit them until you are happy. Also, with film, you were limited on the number of prints due to cost (most people had around 25) but you had less photos to choose from, whereas now, how do you choose from over 500 photos?
John and I pick out the photos we are happiest with but invariably the bride and groom ask to see them all, love them all and want them all! One of our recent couples even picked a photo as their favorite that we had discarded! It just goes to show that a ‘professional’ eye isn’t always as good a an ’emotional’ eye.
For many couples the thought of being photographed is bad enough yet alone being videoed but speaking from my own experiences I can’t recommend it enough.
John and I got married at home so had the whole day recorded due to no restrictions, however, the sound quality was so poor we ended up putting music over it! You may think that having the video done was a waste of time but, no, as it still allowed us to replay our day and watch the emotions unfold, which was just as well seeing as our photographer had problems with his camera but that’s a different story!
Although we don’t offer a full video package we do offer to video the speeches. We find to start with that couples decline the offer as the groom is already nervous enough about doing his speech without it being caught on film but we promise to be very discreet and out of eyesight (we keep off to one side) and in the end they are pleased we did it. This was true of one of our recent couples. They were so adamant they didn’t want to be videoed but after having it done they were so pleased. They contacted us to say they constantly watch it (nearly every weekend!) and their Best Man keeps popping in so he can re-live his speech!