When planning a wedding most people have a set budget and they divide that up into component parts – venue, flowers, food etc. However, when it comes to the dress sometimes budgets can go out of the window.
If you know you only have ‘x’ amount to spend on your dress, whatever you do don’t look at or, worse still, try on dresses over budget as the only thing this will achieve is heartache.
A dress that costs £1,000 will never match a dress that costs £12,000 and no matter how many dresses you try on afterwards none of them will live up to the ‘dream’ dress. Dresses within your budget will now seem cheap, they won’t have a big enough skirt, the material won’t be right, there won’t be enough bling etc. Know your budget and stick to it.
If, however, you really feel you can’t live without ‘that’ dress can you live with cutting back on other elements of the wedding? Are you prepared to maybe invite less people, go for the cheaper food option, have less decorations? Think really hard before getting caught up in the excitement of the moment as it could have serious consequences on the rest of the day.
It’s lovely to invite family and friends to help choose your dress but what if they have different ideas to you as to what you should look like on your wedding day? Granny may want a demure covered look, Mum may want the princess gown and your friends want to see you in something tight and sexy so what do you do? Stick to your guns, that’s what!
The number of brides who fall in love with a dress and can visualise walking down the aisle in it and then change their minds because one or more of their entourage don’t like it is amazing.
Also, if someone else is paying for the dress they probably feel they have the final say in what you wear but remember, it’s your day and it’s your choice. Don’t feel pressured into buying something you don’t want. It’s better to walk away without a dress than buy one you’re not in love with as it will probably only result in you buying another dress later on anyway. If the dress makes you light up and maybe shed a few happy tears then everyone else will love it too.
For most people the health kick starts on January 1st but for some reason, for brides-to-be, it happens when the ring is put on their finger. They seem to think the minute the man of their dreams wants to marry them he suddenly doesn’t like the way they look!
Maybe you haven’t felt happy with how you look for some time but because your partner loves you just the way you are, you haven’t had a reason to do anything about it, but now you have the incentive you need and exercise is a great stress reliever, which when planning a wedding could be a bonus! There are a few downsides though……..what if your fiance doesn’t like the ‘new’ you? What if he misses eating takeaways with you on a Saturday night? What if he doesn’t want to embrace your new fitness regime? With weight loss a new confidence can come and people notice you more – will your fiance be happy about that and proud to be with you or will it cause jealousies? Will you look at your partner and think they don’t look as ‘fit’ as you thought they were and feel you could do better?
It’s worth thinking about the reasons you want to lose weight. If you are doing it to look good in your photographs how are they going to make you feel if you put the weight back on? Losing weight is great but do it for the right reasons and make sure your fiance is with you 100%, after all, he might not want you to lose those assets that he loves!
When it comes to your boyfriend ‘popping the question’ would you be happy for him to surprise you with a ring he’s chosen or would you want to pick it yourself? If you’ve got to the stage where he’s ready to propose, he must feel he knows you pretty well and what your tastes are so would you happily accept it or say ‘Darling that’s wonderful but not really me’ and make sure he’s kept the receipt so you can go back with him to the shop and get what you want?
Then how do you decide what to choose? Do you prefer a solitaire, three stones, a certain cut or colour or would you prefer to have it designed so yours is unique?
If money is tight and he can’t afford the ring of your dreams would you upgrade as and when he could afford to or would the sentimentality mean you’d stick with the original one?
I used to work with a girl who ‘upgraded’ her engagement ring four times! The marriage didn’t last – maybe she upgraded him!!!