Don’t Get Down About Covid-19

Disease thermometer virus 2019-nCoV
Disease thermometer virus 2019-nCoV

 

You’ve probably spent years dreaming about and planning your wedding and now it’s just around the corner but Covid-19 has reared its ugly head and everything has had to go on hold.  The stress levels are now even higher and panic has probably set in but now is the time to take a few deep breaths and accept that there is no point in stressing about something you have no control over.

Your guests will understand and appreciate that you are postponing because you have to and you don’t want to put their lives at risk (that wouldn’t be a great party atmosphere!) and will still probably have an empty diary for the following year anyway and if you work with your venue and suppliers you shouldn’t lose any money as you will still be using them and they should be understanding and flexible during this crazy time.  They will want to accommodate you as they will want to keep your business once life resumes (and it will).  Bear in mind that if you cancel rather than postpone you will invariably lose your money.

When contacting your suppliers to re-schedule, it’s probably best to email them as then you have a paper-trail to follow rather than trying to remember what was agreed over the phone and most suppliers will keep any payment made as a voucher or credit to be used in the future, however, try to get this in writing for peace of mind.

This is one time when wedding insurance will probably come into its own as if a supplier is forced to close and cannot host your wedding or provide food, flowers etc, then you will be entitled to compensation.

If you were planning your wedding for 2021 I’d recommend caution and not commit anything financially yet.  Wait and see how things pan out and remember, there will be a backlog of weddings and date changes that will have to be accommodated first but this doesn’t stop you researching and planning etc.

Trying to finish on an up-beat note, for all you couples that have had to postpone, focus on planning your new wedding and remember it doesn’t have to be what you originally planned!  Maybe you saw things that you wished you’d incorporated into your plan but felt it was too late to do so, well now you have the time to add them and you never know you may end up with a wedding plan that is better than your original one!

Just remember, your wedding will happen and everyone will be in the mood to party bigger and better so enjoy!

‘Back’ In Fashion!

 

Dramatic backBearing in mind that while you are saying your vows, most of your guests are going to be looking at your back, why not go to town with a statement back detail?

This could be a short cape with delicate beading, a complete lace back, a cut-out, beading all the way down or even a train with lace panelling.

If you don’t want to shock your celebrant (or family) by showing too much flesh up front, then this is a great way to add a wow factor to what appears to be a more demure dress, plus, it’s a nice surprise for your groom to see as he won’t know what you’re hiding as you walk towards him!

The 20’s For The 20’s

Flapper Wedding

Now we are in the 2020’s what better time to have a roaring 20’s wedding?

Dresses could be flapper style with fringing and beading or even feathers but if a feathered dress makes you think of  ‘Big Bird’ then why not try a feathered bolero or a feathered headband?

Art Deco jewellery can add some old time and often stunning touches as well as a peep-toe Mary-Jane shoe.

The Art Deco theme could also continue through with your invitations (think geometric designs in gold and black) and also your cake.

To top it off, this could be a great chance for your guests to really participate too.  The ladies in flapper dresses and the gents in smart suits and spats!  Get your Great Gatsby head on and go for it!

Buttonholes/Boutonnieres

Buttonhole

Sometimes a groom can feel a bit left out when it comes to what he’s going to wear on the big day.  Nine times out of ten, his outfit has to complement the bride and it can sometimes be hard for their personality to shine through.

One easy and relatively low cost way is by a personalised buttonhole.  There are so many options out there now that only your imagination can hold you back.

  • There are fabric ones that come in many patterns and colours.
  • Knitted ones that, again, come in many colours.
  • Feathers – peacock ones for a lovely bright splash of colour or pheasant if you want something a little more rustic, maybe with a meadow flower if its an outdoor wedding, or a sprig of heather if there are Celtic connections.
  • Paper flowers, perhaps made from the pages of a favourite book.
  • Shells are great for beach weddings and who said pockets are just for handkerchiefs?  Why not fill your lapel pocket with a small bouquet?

Whatever your personality there is a buttonhole out there for you!

Don’t Blow Your Budget.

Dream dress

When planning a wedding most people have a set budget and they divide that up into component parts – venue, flowers, food etc.  However, when it comes to the dress sometimes budgets can go out of the window.

If you know you only have ‘x’ amount to spend on your dress, whatever you do don’t look at or, worse still, try on dresses over budget as the only thing this will achieve is heartache.

A dress that costs £1,000 will never match a dress that costs £12,000 and no matter how many dresses you try on afterwards none of them will live up to the ‘dream’ dress.  Dresses within your budget will now seem cheap, they won’t have a big enough skirt, the material won’t be right, there won’t be enough bling etc.  Know your budget and stick to it.

If, however, you really feel you can’t live without ‘that’ dress can you live with cutting back on other elements of the wedding?  Are you prepared to maybe invite less people, go for the cheaper food option, have less decorations?  Think really hard before getting caught up in the excitement of the moment as it could have serious consequences on the rest of the day.

Too Many Cooks.

Entourage

It’s lovely to invite family and friends to help choose your dress but what if they have different ideas to you as to what you should look like on your wedding day?  Granny may want a demure covered look, Mum may want the princess gown and your friends want to see you in something tight and sexy so what do you do?  Stick to your guns, that’s what!

The number of brides who fall in love with a dress and can visualise walking down the aisle in it and then change their minds because one or more of their entourage don’t like it is amazing.

Also, if someone else is paying for the dress they probably feel they have the final say in what you wear but remember, it’s your day and it’s your choice.  Don’t feel pressured into buying something you don’t want.  It’s better to walk away without a dress than buy one you’re not in love with as it will probably only result in you buying another dress later on anyway.  If the dress makes you light up and maybe shed a few happy tears then everyone else will love it too.

To Lose (Weight) Or Not To Lose, That Is The Question!

Gym

For most people the health kick starts on January 1st but for some reason, for brides-to-be, it happens when the ring is put on their finger.  They seem to think the minute the man of their dreams wants to marry them he suddenly doesn’t like the way they look!

Maybe you haven’t felt happy with how you look for some time but because your partner loves you just the way you are, you haven’t had a reason to do anything about it, but now you have the incentive you need and exercise is a great stress reliever, which when planning a wedding could be a bonus!  There are a few downsides though……..what if your fiance doesn’t like the ‘new’ you?  What if he misses eating takeaways with you on a Saturday night?  What if he doesn’t want to embrace your new fitness regime?  With weight loss a new confidence can come and people notice you more – will your fiance be happy about that and proud to be with you or will it cause jealousies?   Will you look at your partner and think they don’t look as ‘fit’ as you thought they were and feel you could do better?

It’s worth thinking about the reasons you want to lose weight.  If you are doing it to look good in your photographs how are they going to make you feel if you put the weight back on?  Losing weight is great but do it for the right reasons and make sure your fiance is with you 100%, after all, he might not want you to lose those assets that he loves!